When, we as adults start to become aware of, and really question our beliefs around the roles of Parent, Adult and Child it can be startling to realise that the individual rights, we as adults expect to receive, are not rewarded to our children.
It’s not complicated, just ask yourself…..
How do you feel when someone doesn’t listen to what you need, but “tells” you what they believe you need?
How do you feel when someone “tells” you what they believe you should do, when you didn’t even ask for their opinion?
How do you feel when someone admonishes, criticises or judges you for not doing something the way they want something to be done?
How do you feel when someone insists you live according to their belief systems on education, religion, and behaviour, without ever asking how you feel about it?
How do you feel when someone makes fun of you or criticises your hopes, dreams and deepest feelings?
How do you feel when someone reduces you to a bunch of negative labels suggesting you’re not “good enough” as you are?
How does it feel to have someone tell you, you are wrong for feeling what you feel?
I could go on, but now I’m thinking….if a friend or partner treated us this way wouldn’t we end the relationship? So, imagine if you couldn’t, that you had to live with that person everyday of your life for at least 16 years……I believe, I would fight against them at every opportunity I could and have some major “Tantrums”.
This is our birth right and its worth fighting for.